by Peter Zohrab (2003) (incorporating
suggestions by A.N. Onymous)
(Open Letter to the NZ Sunday Star-Times)
Recently, we had a female newspaper editor
running two articles by a female (Deidre Mussen, Sunday Star-Times November
9th 2003) about how a woman (Celia Lashlie) has the gall to think she can
solve a supposed problem in the education of boys by telling them what they
should aspire to ! But you are not so mad as the principals of the secondary
schools who put a woman in charge of this project!
The most significant problems boys face today are the lack of male-specific
advocacy, lack of respect for their beliefs and attitudes, the consequent
lack of self esteem, and the lack of same-sex role models in schools. I am
afraid that Lashlie is only worsening boys' difficulties by failing to tackle
directly problems of boy self-esteem and by further attempting to force square
pegs into round holes.
How can boys possibly develop meaningful goals and self-esteem if their
school principals are so loony as to put a *woman* in charge of telling them
what their goals should be ? Would they also put a man in charge of girl-advocacy
for the public school system? Would they allow a man to advise girls to think
more like boys? Be more "boy-like" in their interests and career
choices? Disparage normal girl aspirations? If they chose to do so, would
this be the best way to fill a perceived void in positive female role models
and female self-esteem?
This is just a symptom of the basic problem in New Zealand. Schools are
dominated by female teachers, the majority of whom promote their personal
beliefs ahead of the interests of their male pupils, and who constantly judge
men according to how their thinking and behavior suits the interests of others
like them (read: "women"). That is the problem, and pretending that
the boys themselves are inherently problematic is the usual Feminist fantasy
which has been destroying boys' self-confidence for decades.
Your predecessor (or was it you yourself ?) wrote an editorial ( September
7th 2003) in which she said men should apologize for having penises, and that
it was usually blokes who did the wife-beating ! This combination of stupidity
and sexist penis-envy is obviously what it takes to get promoted in the Feminist-dominated
education and media-sectors !
Although it decries Political Correctness, the Good Man project is obviously
corrupted by feminist Political Correctness from start to finish. Nelson College
headmaster Salvi Gargiulo says:
- "It's about getting boys talking about emotions,"
It is absolutely ludicrous to say that boys should talk about their emotions.
That is what girls do -- and it leads to the betrayal of secrets and malicious
gossip. Men deal with their problems, generally speaking, by going off and
doing something totally different. There has never been any evidence (that
I have heard of) provided by the female-dominated Psychology/Psychiatry industry
that talking about emotions works for males -- or, indeed, for anyone.
Freud started this off by chatting to middle-class Viennese women, and since
then the mental health of the Western World has gone rapidly downhill ! From
the very start of the feminist movement, the psychoanalytic techniques of
Freud were criticized as being altogether too patriarchal and pathologizing
towards normal female psychology. We now live in an era where it is normal
masculine behaviors that are routinely pathologized.
It would perhaps be better to ask the fundamental question as follows: are
the educational and therapy services provided to young men provided by the
best advocate for that particular person? Are the best techniques
being used to boost the self-esteem and engagement of the specific child in
question? Does the educator have an ulterior motive that may run contrary
to the best interest and aspirations of the specific child in question?
Meanwhile, Celia Lashlie says that:
- alcohol use and homophobia are rife and need addressing.
Homophobia and alcohol use may well need to be addressed, from a moral
and health point of view, but they are part of a completely different (even
hostile) agenda to an agenda that aims to restore most boys' self-worth as
Boys are not in need of a bullying "Good Man Project". What they
need is special place to be and celebrate being boys, and a Good Woman Project
to teach their professors how to be better advocates for boys' personal interests.
I will volunteer to run it ! We can compile a set of
compulsory courses for all female teachers, lecturers, journalists and union
officials, in order to sensitize them to the more delicate issues regarding
male education today.